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[05:12:31] [Caliosidhe]: You know, I think I found the thing that would get Eric and I to break up
[05:12:44] [Caliosidhe]: Its sort of all about him, rofl
[05:14:01] [Prestigal]: Is it wow related
[05:14:10] [Caliosidhe]: I think wow is the basis of it
[05:14:16] [Caliosidhe]: Like, the small model
[05:14:33] [Prestigal]: whats da problem at hand
[05:15:44] [Prestigal]: him being over protective?
[05:15:48] [Prestigal]: thats really the only issue i see
[05:15:58] [Caliosidhe]: He just told me he enjoys his family a great deal and that he'd want to live by him and we could visit my Dad whenever I'd like, but we weren't going to pick where to live based on the fact that my Dad might die sooner
[05:16:01] [Caliosidhe]: Or something
[05:16:01] [Prestigal]: you two are like PB+J from outside in
[05:16:38] [Prestigal]: ah
[05:16:47] [Caliosidhe]: Like he would leave here if I really forced him into it, this server, or where I wanted to live rl
[05:17:17] [Caliosidhe]: But his decision is based on the fact that he thinks he enjoys the game more then me, or how it shouldn't matter that my dad is 70 and his is 45
[05:17:28] [Caliosidhe]: And that my Dad is completely alone
[05:17:46] [Caliosidhe]: But his parents still ahve each other and their entire family network plus two other siblings
[05:17:59] [Prestigal]: look at it this way
[05:18:02] [Caliosidhe]: Not that I'm saying I want to move by my Dad, I just wanted to see what he would say about it
[05:18:06] [Prestigal]: and me, knowing dick about the situation
[05:18:24] [Prestigal]: I instantly think I wouldnt want to do it because I dont want to have to take care of the guy
[05:18:32] [Prestigal]: and thats being blatantly honest
[05:18:39] [Prestigal]: but who knows what hes thinking
[05:20:51] [Prestigal]: but i mean
[05:20:55] [Prestigal]: you dont live near him now
[05:21:00] [Prestigal]: so how is it an issue
[05:21:14] [Caliosidhe]: Its not yet, I mean in the future
[05:23:56] [Caliosidhe]: Like this is how he acts now, not like what is equal between us, but he'll come up with justification about why what he wants to do should get more preference. Which I'm not like, omg thats terrible, there are times when I might do the same, but it seems
[05:24:06] [Caliosidhe]: like it could be awfully tilted in his direction right now.
[05:25:25] [Prestigal]: So
[05:25:31] [Prestigal]: It's a control issue..?
[05:25:34] [Prestigal]: I guess im confused
[05:26:33] [Caliosidhe]: Its not control I guess
[05:27:03] [Caliosidhe]: He's not like, I'm going to make you do this, like I said, I could pressure him if I really really really wanted to
[05:27:38] [Prestigal]: About leaving his family? I dont think that's a move that would end well
[05:27:43] [Prestigal]: He's all about the family
[05:28:04] [Caliosidhe]: I don't want to, but the way he expects me to just be okay and follow along with what he wants is frustrating
[05:28:45] [Prestigal]: that's any relationship, congrats
[05:29:11] [Caliosidhe]: Well he refuses to even entertain the possibility of doing the same in reverse
[05:30:18] [Prestigal]: well i mean in his eyes he only sees disadvantages
[05:30:24] [Prestigal]: your dad lives in ARizona right?
[05:30:28] [Prestigal]: i mean what the fuck is in Arizona
[05:30:33] [Prestigal]: hes used to livingin Cali
[05:30:35] [Prestigal]: You in NY
[05:30:36] [Prestigal]: big cities
[05:30:40] [Prestigal]: going to Arizona?
[05:30:53] [Caliosidhe]: Well I don't expect him to
[05:33:38] [Prestigal]: Step 1 in a relationship
[05:33:45] [Prestigal]: Entertain the bullshit
[05:40:55] [Caliosidhe]: Bah, its way too long inbetween times we actually get to see each other
[05:41:11] [Caliosidhe]: Like when we get to spend time just together its good
[05:41:15] [Caliosidhe]: Like in person
[05:41:25] [Caliosidhe]: Even here like when we were doing the alt thing
[05:42:06] [Caliosidhe]: HEre where I'm in constant competition for his attention and we can't actually play the game together, is kind of sucking
[05:42:41] [Prestigal]: i mean
[05:43:00] [Prestigal]: just look at it from a more real world perspective
[05:43:12] [Prestigal]: if he was a lwayer, doctor, muscian
[05:43:16] [Prestigal]: same shit could go down
[05:43:18] [Prestigal]: often
[05:43:29] [Prestigal]: and you wouldnt even be apart of it at all
[05:43:32] [Caliosidhe]: Yeah I know.
[05:43:41] [Prestigal]: so in the positive light, its not the worst it could be
[05:43:42] [Caliosidhe]: But it couldn't be all the time
[05:43:54] [Caliosidhe]: Long distance, in this case, it kinda is
[05:44:04] [Caliosidhe]: If we were close together it would be a nonissue in my openion
[05:44:07] [Caliosidhe]: opinion
[05:44:18] [Prestigal]: mhmm
[05:44:23] [Caliosidhe]: To mantain it long distance, extra effort has to be taken
[05:44:31] [Prestigal]: the only reason this long distance relathionship is even working is because thats how it started
[05:44:49] [Caliosidhe]: This is about the time
[05:44:59] [Caliosidhe]: Like a month without seeing him that I start to get really ansty
[05:45:04] [Caliosidhe]: And doubtful
[05:46:12] [Prestigal]: yeah
[05:46:25] [Prestigal]: but i mean
[05:46:41] [Prestigal]: if youre having tiffs about trivial things like this game, whats going to happen with the real stuff
[05:46:44] [Prestigal]: things to consider
[05:46:53] [Caliosidhe]: I'm having fun running into the alliance roon here and seeinghow far I get before they port me
[05:47:01] [Prestigal]: lol.
[05:47:03] [Caliosidhe]: That what the entire point of the conversation tonight
[05:48:02] [Prestigal]: cuz in reality, him quitting / playing on a new server accomplishes zero
[05:48:04] [Caliosidhe]: Like we're here because you say you have to be on this server. I say its we're here because you want to be in this guild and he's like no, its the server, its not paying and knowing different people
[05:48:46] [Caliosidhe]: But if he's here then despite him saying otherwise, it has to be this guild which he did finally admit, because he's get too much shit for going elsewhere
[05:49:08] [Prestigal]: please
[05:49:12] [Prestigal]: he's just trying to justify it to you
[05:49:17] [Prestigal]: and im sure you know that
[05:49:42] [Prestigal]: and he tried selling that shit to me too
[05:49:52] [Prestigal]: failure on his end
[05:50:00] [Caliosidhe]: I know, I don't believe what he tries to sell at all
[05:51:11] [Prestigal]: o
[05:51:12] [Prestigal]: god
[05:51:18] [Prestigal]:
[05:51:19] [Prestigal]: L
[05:51:19] [Prestigal]: O
[05:51:20] [Prestigal]: L
[05:51:38] [Caliosidhe]: But I mean, if its a choice in houses or location, or a car or anything important, he's going to have what he wants more and I guess just naturally believes that his wants have more weight
[05:51:56] [Caliosidhe]: But yeah, that is a relationship and most people can admit that at least to themselves, I don't think he can lol
[05:53:07] [Prestigal]: The way I would look at it
[05:53:13] [Prestigal]: whoever is paying the bills makes the big $ decisions
[05:53:25] [Prestigal]: it gives numbers to an arguements
[05:53:32] [Prestigal]: which are indisputable
[05:53:58] [Caliosidhe]: It does but theres alsothe fact that he wants to pull me up to a higher standard then what I would be comfortable with. Say we split an apartment 50/50
[05:54:15] [Caliosidhe]: What I would consider like..reasonable and what he would consider reasonable are on two totally different levels
[05:54:27] [Prestigal]: reasonable in what way
[05:54:35] [Prestigal]: $? or decision making
[05:54:55] [Caliosidhe]: Paying 500 a month because I like the 1k apartment and him wanting the 3k one because those are standards he's set to make it near impossible to me to live up to the 1500
[05:55:05] [Caliosidhe]: Money, standards, decision making
[05:55:25] [Prestigal]: oh
[05:55:41] [Prestigal]: 1500 a mo, thats my parents fucking mortage for the house here
[05:55:44] [Prestigal]: well
[05:55:46] [Prestigal]: 2200
[05:56:22] [Prestigal]: but i also could live in a god damn den and be happy
[05:56:33] [Prestigal]: so long as i was confortable
[05:58:29] [Caliosidhe]: Thats what I mean
[05:58:40] [Caliosidhe]: And thats an analogy, thats how I am in life
[05:58:54] [Prestigal]: ayup
[05:59:08] [Caliosidhe]: Oh well bed time, I'll think about this and a way to express my thoughts better tomorrow